my life, honestly
This sums up my relationship with diana
I miss my mom a lot.
I need someone to talk to 😔
If only Elyse and I were still friends
One time, when I we like 4 or 5, I had a day off from school, but my brother didn’t. I wanted to play Super Mario Bros. but my brother wasn’t around. So what happened?
My mom came and played with me. She had no idea how to play. We didn’t make it past the first screen because she kept falling and dying.
I didn’t realize what it meant then.
But now, that’s probably my absolute favorite memory of her.
One the left is a gif of Muslims circumambulating around the Kaabah in Makkah.
On the right is a gif of billions upon billions of stars and solar systems revolving around the centre of the a Galaxy.
See the similarities?
”…Thus does Allaah make clear His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses) to you that you may give thought.”
Why is it that ever since my mom died, I’ve gotten overly emotional? Except only sadness; all other emotions are the same. Like I cry at the SMALLEST things.
At least I think so.
But then sometimes I think it’s that God has changed my heart to be moved by certain words, stories, and inspirations that it brings tears to my eyes so I can realize where I’ve been going wrong.
But mostly I keep all this stuff in. I feel emasculated when I bawl my eyes out over my mom or something that touched my heart. I can’t even talk to Diana about it because she won’t give me a satisfying response.
I just want to stop crying. Like I’m here at work and things I see on tumblr make me tear up like wtf I’m at work stop it.
Lower your gaze, not just from the opposite sex but also
Lower your gaze from the faults of others
Lower your gaze from that which does not concern you
Lower your gaze from that which people want hidden
Lower your gaze from that which makes you angry
Lower your gaze from things that will make you jealous
Urdu has about a billion words for love/heart/lovers/spurning/the agony of love. YOU HAVE BURNED MY HEART.
One of the most beautiful things about Urdu is its dual-meanings for words related to love. For instance, as some of you have seen before, dhalna which means sunset also means slowly becoming attracted to someone. Dil mai dhal jana = To grow fond of (romantic sense). Dil-jala (shown above) is used for lover but also for someone whose heart is - as Urdu poets say - singed with the ache for their beloved.
Salam. I have a problem - I worry ALL the time about religion. Whenever I have a spare moment, I find myself thinking about religion, going over topics of discussion, racking myself, asking whether as Muslims we're just a bunch of hypocrites who quote the Prophet to feel good, and that none of us could really stomach Islam as it really is. And I find myself thinking - maybe if I stopped being religious, I'd just stop worrying all the time.
The Dynamo of Volition Answer:
Wa alykum as-salaam,
Stop worrying. God is awesome. Islam is chill.
Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi, probably the most well-known scholar today, wrote:
"Islam is a practical religion, it does not float in the stratosphere of imaginary ideals but remains with the human being on the ground of realities and day-to-day concerns.
It does not regard people as angels but accepts them as mortals who eat food and walk in the marketplace. Islam does not require of Muslims that their speech should consist entirely of pious utterances, that their silence should be a meditation, that they should listen to nothing except the recitation of the Qur’an, nor that they should spend all their leisure time om the mosque.
Rather, it recognizes that Allah has created human beings with needs and desires, so that, as they need to eat and drink, they also need to relax, and to enjoy themselves.”
In the Hadith Collection of Imam Muslim we have the following in which Hanzalah al-Usaidi, narrated about himself:
"Abu Bakr met me and asked, ‘How are you, Hanzalah?’
I replied, ‘Hanzalah has becomea hypocrite.’
He said, ‘Subhanallah! What are you saying?’
I replied, ‘When we are with God’s Messenger (peace be on him), he mentions the Fire and the Garden until it is as if we can see them. But when we leave The Prophet’s company and play with our wives and children or busy ourselves with our properties, we forget much.’
Abu Bakr said, ‘By God, I have experienced the same thing.’
He and I then went to visit The Messenger of God (peace be on him), and I said, ‘O Messenger of God, Hanzalah has become a hypocrite.’
He asked, ‘And how is that?’
I replied, ‘O Messenger of God, when we are with you, you talk about the Fire and the Garden until it is as if we can see them. Then we go out and play with our wives and children and deal with
our properties, and we forget much.’
The Messenger of God (peace be on him) then said, ‘By Him in Whose Hand is my soul, if you were to continue at the same level at which you were when with me and in remembering God, the angels would shake hands with you when you are resting and when you walk about, but, O Hanzalah, there is a time (for this) and a time (for that).’ He repeated this phrase three times.”
Furthermore, Ali ibn Abu Talib, addressing the issue of leisure, said: “Minds get tired, as do bodies, so treat them with humor,” and “Refresh your minds from time to time, for a tired mind becomes blind.”
Another story of The Prophet, found in Shamail al Muhammadiyyah of Imam Tirmidhi reports the following:
"…an old woman came to Rasulullah [SAW] and made a request [asked]: ‘O Messenger of Allah, make Dua that Allah grants me entrance into Jannah.’
Rasulullah [SAW] replied, ‘O Mother, an old woman cannot enter Jannah.’
That woman started crying and began to leave. Rasulullah [SAW] said, ‘Say to the woman that one will not enter in a state of old age, but Allah will make all the women of Jannah young virgins. Allah Ta’ala says, “Lo! We have created them a (new) creation and made them virgins, lovers, equal in age.’” [56:35-37]”
This was a joke from The Prophet. The fact that he did this is underlined by the following Hadith, narrated in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad (among other places):
Abu Hurayra reported that the people said, “Messenger of God, you joke with us!” He replied, “But I only speak the truth.”
Finally, Imam Abu Hanifa, underlined that humor was not something alien to Muslims, let alone people of knowledge:
A man came to Imam Abu Hanifa and asked: “if I take off my clothes and bathe in the river should I face the qibla or another direction?”
Imam Abu Hanifa replied: “it’s best to face the direction of your clothes just in case they get stolen.”
All these super religious people joked around, they had lives, they chilled, they cared about their families, and so I don’t think you are giving yourself a fair shake. Relax a little bit, and maybe talk to a counselor, it might help, but I don’t think it’s about “being religious” because I doubt you’d put these fears away by ignoring them. The reality is that you have a view of Islam that is unnecessarily strict (on yourself) so please, relax and rest knowing that God is Merciful.
I hope this helps, insha Allah.
This is the most perfect reminder that Allah expects us to be normal people who simply follow the straight path. It’s not rocket science. And it’s not hard.
Its often the shorter ayats that resonate the hardest:
“There shall be no compulsion in religion” (2:256)
"Why do you not help each other?" (37:25)
"To Allah do we belong, and to Allah we shall return" (2:156)
"Surely in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest" (13:28)
"And Allah wants to lighten for you your difficulties, and mankind was created weak" (4:28)
"Every soul will taste death" (29:57)
And many more which send shivers down the spine.